Which is better?
On the flip side, I know that some of the people who are "popular" are also not well respected. I am thinking of one coworker in particular who is rather popular (has people stopping by his cubicle all the time and so on), but people make fun of him behind his back for being dumber than a brick wall and semi-useless at his job.
I'm not sure which I'd prefer. It's good to know that I'm respected, and it would be best to be both respected and well-liked, but if I had to choose one over the other, I don't know which one I would pick.
Which would you pick?
*UPDATE* Some people have wondered (1) whether I am talking about "friends" when I talk about "being liked", and (2) whether it is possible to like someone without respecting him or her.
As to point 1, personally I'm referring to social popularity, not true friendship. That is, I mean only how many people seek you out for your company, not for real comradeship. Real friends, for me at least, are (and should be) extremely rare. Social popularity is a much more superficial thing.
As to point 2, yes, I think it is possible to like someone without respect. There are a number of people I know whom I like but don't particularly respect. That is, I don't think that they are particularly worthy of being looked up to intellectually or due to their good works or what have you. They are simply people whose company I enjoy for whatever (once again) superficial reason.