A loving and kind god would allow this to happen? Bullshit.
Everything happens for a reason? Bullshit.
The Riddle of Epicurus
Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent.
Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent.
Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil?
Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?
The devil is the only cause of evil? Isn't god omnipotent? Couldn't he prevent horrors like this from happening if he wanted to? Then he must not want to. He must have a "reason" for allowing this to happen. I can not accept the "goodness" or "higher purpose" of any god who would allow something like this (or any other horrible thing) to happen to a child.
I have higher standards than that.